20 week bump date – Happy Halfway!

Being pregnant can pose a few challenges. There’s rules to follow, there’s a child to make preparations for, there’s doctors appointments, there’s that whole “too tired to function” segment, there’s random aches and a rapidly increasing belly, and wait – what else? Oh yeah, there’s everything that you normally do. Maneuvering can be a a struggle at times, but one that I’m so happy about!

Take this weekend for example. For the past five days, I’ve had a pretty awful cold {don’t worry, it’s not the flu, I went to the doctor and confirmed that I’m flu negative. Let’s just say that was one test I was happy to fail.} Friday night, Charles was having guys night, so I planned to happily take this opportunity to clean the house and catch up on some much needed chores. Combine congestion, an awful headache, a sore throat, an aching back, a glorious thunderstorm, and pregnancy exhaustion {by the way..hello to all of you big fat fakers who told me second trimester bursts of energy were a thing. I mean, I’m not falling asleep at 6pm anymore, but still, so tired..} and take your best educated guess to see if you think I accomplished anything I intended to. If your answer was no, congratulations! You’re a winner. No, there’s no prize or anything, but nice deduction skills. I ended up taking a tylenol, slathered on Vicks, sat with my beloved heating pad, and turned on my humidified filled with eucalyptus essential oil as well as my diffuser, and I caught up on rest. I did nothing. My body was begging me for this rest, yet I ignored it all week. I mean, Grayson is already taking a lot of my energy {and food…and nutrients} and the told was zapping up the littler I had left, so I should have realized sooner I needed to stay in bed all night in order to get well.

Enter Saturday morning. I woke up feeling refreshed after sleeping in {woohoo, I slept until 7am! If you know me at all, this is a victory for me!} and I knew I had wifey duties to tend to. The house was a disaster{remember aforementioned thunderstorm? Well, we have our two dogs as well as my mother in laws two dogs this weekend. Combine wet grass, mud, and the paws of four dogs and you get an idea on how messy the house was when I woke up Saturday} I had also volunteered to watch my nephew Liam for a few hours, and I needed to address and mail invitations for a couples shower we are co-hosting. Somehow, I managed to address + mail the invites, watch Liam, take a hot shower, make a grocery list, sweep + mop all of the floors,  cleaned the mirrors, had all of the humidifiers and diffusers cleansing the air, replace scentsy’s, wash all of the sheets {I had a cold, this had to be done}, clean the counters, scrub toilets, scrub the showers, and make a grocery list. And let me tell you – It. Felt. Incredible. 

enjoy my wife duties. I absolutely love being a wife, and these are just the kind of things you look forward to when you take on the role of someone’s wife. More than anything, I love how the house feels now that I’m finished! From the way clean sheets feel, to the way the house smells, to the calmness it brings. Take last night for example. I was so happy to be done with all of the cleaning and so exhausted from doing it, I was sitting in my clean sheets, with “sleepy pillow spray” on my pillow, my heating pad on my back, next to my humidifier, and the house felt wonderful. I felt calm, I felt peaceful, and I felt exhausted. But it can be a tad harder to achieve constant calm when you’re expecting a little one, especially if you’re sick.

I don’t feel like I always have to have it together, but I’m going to try my hardest to make sure I have it as close as I can possibly get. Today will be a Sunday well spent with coffee, grocery shopping, washing Grayson’s new crib sheet in newborn detergent, putting together his crib, and meal prepping for the week to come. This is the life that I love. This is my best life. Taking care of my husband and soon to be son makes me feel fulfilled.

Quick “20 week bumpdate” – HOORAY we are HALFWAY to meeting you, sweet Grayson Lowrey! Your mommy has been feeling great, just tired. The only thing she has been craving is beer, so daddy got her some O’Douls {non alcoholic beer} and that seems to keep mommy satisfied. Daddy has painted your room and put together your crib. He is so excited to meet you! He also goes around showing EVERYONE the pictures of your gender ultrasound, saying “THAT’S MY BOY!!” He talks to you every night and has to “hold you” aka hold my belly every night before bed. Mommy keeps buying you clothes and knows she needs to stop, but she can’t help it, you’re going to be the best dressed boy on the block! Mommy was talking to a stranger the other day and said “my son…” and then started to cry. of happiness. Your fur sisters Cholla and Milli are excited to meet you, too! We can’t wait to get another sneak peek at you in a week, but until then, we are going to post a few pictures of your 16 week ultrasound to show everyone!

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We get to love you

I had every intention of posting several months ago about my skin care routine {I’ve found some fantastic products lately that don’t break your budget..} but right about the time I was going to be writing our my content for that post, something else happened.

We found out we are expecting a Baby Alley!

Needless to say, there were too many thoughts + emotions going through my head to remember “Oh hey, about that blog post on skin care routines…”  My free time quickly became overcome with worry {is the baby ok in there?}, with excitement {let’s look at baby names! And baby items!}, and with the feeling of being a bit overwhelmed. It was a time I got to spend with my husband keeping this little secret about this sweet little miracle we have created.

Now, because I like talking so much about my experiences with life so much, I thought I would share some of my “first trimester tips” with you {because hallelujah i’ve made it to trimester 2!} So here we go:

First trimester experiences {from an extremely unexperienced pregnant lady}

  • You don’t always have to get morning sickness. And thank you sweet lord for that. That was actually one of the first fears I had upon finding out I was pregnant. People make it out to seem like every woman will be drastically ill throughout the first trimester {and don’t get me wrong, some of you will!} Luckily, I did not have this problem. I didn’t get sick a single time {I had a few small waves of nausea here and there albeit nothing unmanageable} A tip I learned from my sister was if you start to feel sick, even if you’re not hungry at all, eat a snack! It will help you stop feeling nauseous. Luckily, if you do have morning sickness, it should start to subside around good ole trimester 2.
  • You’ll be tired, OH SO VERY TIRED. I never realized how exhausted I would be. I work 6-3, so it’s rare you’ll find me up past 8:30 or 9pm anyway, but now it’s hard to find me awake past 7pm! I won’t be feeling overly exhausted and them WHAM, I’ve fallen asleep with my phone on my face and I don’t even realize it until an hour later. This is something I don’t think others fully understand if they haven’t experienced pregnancy before, because lately I’ve gotten the feeling some of our friends have thought I’m being lazy or something. .Let me tell you, mommas, I understand. This symptom has hit me and hit me with a vengeance. Our bodies are working in overdrive to provide support not only to us, but to our sweet littles. Now supposedly we’re in luck, this is supposed to start subsiding and we’re supposed to get a “burst of energy” in trimester two, but I haven’t gotten there yet. I’m only a week in to trimester two, and I’m still just as tired as I was before.
  • Stay OFF of the mommy forums and mommy boards on the internet. This is something I didn’t know I wasn’t supposed to do until I started and ended up getting TERRIFIED of everything. But once I had started googling all of my questions, I couldn’t stop, so my advice? Don’t even start. If you go looking for a board on advice if there’s a problem, you will inevitably find someone who had a problem. Usually people who do are hooked to those boards, so stay off of them or you will worry yourself sick. I know I did. I wouldn’t even allow myself to think of names or nursery ideas or anything until after my 12 week appointment with my doctor because those boards freaked me out so much. If there are no signs that there is a problem, I’m sure your baby is completely fine in there. Let your body do what it was created by God to do. If you can’t help it and do end up getting worried, I saw a recommendation from a doctor that said if you’re really worried in trimester 1 and you can’t get in to see the doctor until 12 weeks {which is normal}, then take one pregnancy test per week. If something were going wrong, likely your HcG levels would drop and it would be reflected on a pregnancy test. I did this a couple of times to calm my nerves, and by george, it helped.
  • Don’t let people “preggo shame” you. If I am asked one more time why I’m drinking a cup of coffee when I’m pregnant, I may actually throw hot coffee at someone {okay, an exaggeration, but you get what I’m saying.} I know how much coffee / caffeine I’m allotted in a day {and trust me I use it wisely}. You’re going to get asked about epidurals, about chromosomal disorder testing, about breastfeeding, about staying at home, about co-sleeping, about your exercise routine…everything. It’s like being pregnant is an open invitation for everyone to voice their opinions. At first, this severely bothered me, but now I realize that people are just trying to help. Their opinions are most likely what they were taught is the best for their babies, and they are wanting to share that advice with you, so let them, and then choose to use what you wish. It’s also a time where you and your spouse will start forming a new bond, and you’ll have to become a team. Charles and I have recently had a discussion about not discussing important decisions in front of family or friends, because these are decisions we need to make in private as a new parental unit. All you have to do when someone asks you something you haven’t discussed yet and may have different opinions about is say “we haven’t discussed that yet, and we will discuss it later in private.” There are big decisions that come with being a parent. My husband and I were raised similarly yet completely different, so it will take time for us to blend our backgrounds to parent the best way possible, but those discussions are personal, and you don’t need family or friends in the background trying to sway your decisions one way or the other.
  • Keep dating your spouse. One of the reasons Charles and I didn’t start talking about children immediately after we were married is because we wanted to get to know each other in our knew roles as husband and wife. One of my greatest fears is that we will start making everything about our child and stop putting our marriage first, which, I know may be an unpopular opinion, but your marriage should always come first. Charles and I have “mini date nights” where we fill out the baby book together, talk about baby names, do projects around the house, order in food and binge watch our favorite shows, etc. They say husbands can often feel left out of the pregnancy process if you don’t make them feel involved, so I’ve been trying to keep that in mind and letting Charles contribute whenever he can. He was the husband that was there to help make every decision with our wedding, and he wanted to be there, and he’s been there wanting to be a part of every decision with Baby A as well. I cannot wait to see him in his new role as “father.”

Here’s a few pictures from the talented N.M. Franklin Photography of our baby announcement!

“We get to love you”